Push Present: A Gift Worth Giving or Just a Trend? ✨

Becoming a mom is no small feat. Carrying a baby for nine months and then bringing them into the world deserves a medal, right? Well, let’s talk about the modern-day alternative: the push present. What exactly is it, and should Muslim moms embrace this idea? Let’s dive in with some fun and facts. (And yes, push presents don’t have much to do with the image above. But we needed a decent pic, you know..)

What is a Push Present Anyway? 🎁

A push present is a gift a husband gives his wife to celebrate the birth of their child. Some say it’s a token of appreciation; others think it’s just another marketing gimmick. But here’s the real question: Does Islam say anything about it?

Islam encourages kindness and generosity between spouses. As the Prophet Muhammad (sallallaahu alayhi wasallam) said: “Exchange gifts, and you will love one another.” Al-Adab Al-Mufrad, 594. So, while the concept of a push present isn’t rooted in Islamic tradition, giving gifts is definitely encouraged.

Do Muslim Moms Need Push Presents?

Let’s be real, sisters. After 12+ hours of labor (or more—Allah make it easy for us all), you probably deserve more than just a “good job”! While Islam doesn’t make push presents obligatory, it’s a lovely gesture. If your husband wants to shower you with something meaningful, say alhamdulillah and accept it with a big smile. 😁

Equality Matters (Even in Gifts)

For those in polygamous marriages, fairness is key. If one wife receives a push present, the others should get equivalent gifts under similar circumstances. This ensures harmony in the homes and prevents misunderstandings. Fairness isn’t just about rights; it’s about maintaining love and balance.

Alternatives to Push Presents 🌸

Not every husband will splurge on a diamond ring or designer bag, and that’s okay! Islam teaches us that the best gifts are those given with the right intention. Here are some ideas:

• Practical Help: How about hiring help for a few weeks? It’s a gift you’ll truly cherish.
• A Memorable Celebration: An ‘aqiqah—celebrating the baby’s arrival—can double as a thoughtful gesture. Some wives think this is enough of a gift if the husband takes on all the prep work during this busy time, and makes sure everything is done correctly and smoothly.
• Time and Support: Acts of service, like taking over diaper duty, despite being busy, can be worth more than gold.

Remember, it’s the thought that counts. As long as the gift comes from the heart, it’s meaningful. ❤️

Is It Really a Must?

The answer is no. Husbands aren’t obligated to give push presents. Islam emphasizes love, kindness, and fulfilling each other’s rights. A push present is a modern twist on showing appreciation, but it’s not a requirement.

What’s important is fostering a loving relationship. As the Prophet (sallallaahu alayhi wasallam) said, “The best of you are those who are best to their wives, and I am the best of you to my wives” At-Tirmidhi, 3895. If that includes a push present, great! If not, that’s fine too.

Push Presents vs. Kind Treatment 💕

Islam’s real focus is on consistent acts of kindness. A one-time gift is lovely, but what about daily gestures? Making her a cup of tea, giving her a break from chores, or even a simple “Jazaakil laahu khayraa” can go a long way.

“Live with them in kindness. For if you dislike them – perhaps you dislike a thing and Allah makes therein much good” Quran 4:19. This verse beautifully sums up the essence of marriage in Islam.

So, Should You Ask for a Push Present?

Here’s the playful truth: If you’ve hinted (or outright asked) and your husband still hasn’t caught on, maybe it’s time to embrace the art of sabr. 🥰 But seriously, whether you receive a gift or not, what truly matters is the love and support you both share as you embark on this incredible journey of parenthood.

Conclusion: The Best Gift of All 🌟

Push presents are a sweet idea, but they’re not the be-all and end-all. At the end of the day, the best “gift” is a supportive, loving partner who appreciates you—whether that’s with a new handbag or by holding the baby while you catch some sleep.

And remember, mama, you’ve already received the most priceless gift: your beautiful baby. Everything else is just a bonus! 😍

Want to learn more? Check out our guide to writing a book for tips that might inspire you to push out a book as well.